How to Have a Stress-Free Destination Wedding in Hawaii

Posted by Rachel H. on Oct 31, 2019 9:53:00 AM


Don’t let your big day become a big stress! Whether you're eloping, planning for a small Hawaii wedding, or a commitment ceremony, we have put together some quick tips to help. With feedback from our previous couples and coordinators these pointers will help ensure you are able to enjoy every part of your Hawaii destination wedding.


Be Okay Asking for Help

Is it your first time to Hawaii and not sure which ceremony location to choose? Which hotel to book? Where to have a dinner reception? Not sure if you should book a rental car? Let us know!

Although your wedding coordinators are not travel agents, they know their island home very well. We'd be happy to share some insight or offer our opinion. Even if you have never been to Hawaii before, you already have ohana (family) here to help. You can call or schedule a time for us to call you if you'd like to chat. Sometimes just getting in touch is enough to calm those nerves, and we always like talking to our couples :)

Make a List

After you complete your reservation form, you’ll get a link to your information sheet - a list of all the options for customizations. We suggest reviewing your information sheet and put together a list of everything you want for your wedding day. A beautiful arch with white chiffon draping, a live Hawaiian musician, in-room hair and makeup, etc.

Once you have your list, look over everything and note the items on this list that are your non-negotiables. A few of the most important considerations are:


Weddings of Hawaii Limousine

Even if you have a rental car, arriving in a limo is nice, but should it be on your "must-have" list?


Once you have this sorted, it will allow you to easily prioritize these items in your budget and decide what to add. This way you can ensure you'll have all the items you want for your perfect day without any surprises in your budget later.

After you decide on the non-negotiables, make a list of what you might add to your package. Popular considerations are:

  • In-room hair and makeup
  • Wedding setup
  • Guest leis
  • Live musician


Wedding arbor and chairs for ceremony at Sherwood Forest Beach wedding on OahuIf you have a lot of guests, a wedding setup is nice to have.


Prepare Your Guests

If you have guests coming, you'l want to provide them with enough information. The most important thing is that they arrive early. You don't want to be waiting on your guests because that cuts in to your photography time. 

We have a couple blog posts that could help:

Spending some time to inform your guests on the details of the day will help everything more smoothly. Here are some other considerations:

  • Make sure they have directions. You'll receive these in an email a couple weeks before your ceremony.
  • Especially if you have 25+ guests, inform them to be on time and be prepared for photos right after the ceremony.
  • If you have a large group, prepare a shot list of 5-7 photos you'd like and ask a guest to help organize the groups. Your photographer will help, of course, but recruiting help to call out the list usually speeds things up, leaving more time for the two of you.


Understand Your Costs

While there are articles online that break down the cost of a destination wedding, we find many of them inaccurate. For example, here are some prices from an article on under their “Hawaii Marriage Rates and Wedding Costs” section:

  • Venue: $12,346
  • Event Planner: $2,785
  • Photographer: $2,604
  • Flowers & Decor: $2,191
  • Overall Expense: $27,730

Yikes! And that’s not including travel costs.

So, how does Weddings of Hawaii compare? Well, we’re noooowhere near those prices.

Flower add-ons are popular, but we don’t have many couples who spend what The Knot budgets.


Hawaiian wedding florals: haku lei, maile lei, bouquetA Hawaiian haku is a popular floral add-on.


Our wedding packages are very customizable, and most couples can plan a beach ceremony with everything they want while staying within their budget. Our wedding coordinators are happy to put together a custom quote for you :)


Secure Your Customizations

Do not wait until the last minute to choose your florals or add a makeup artist! Making sure you request your dream wedding items in advance is key to avoiding the stress of last minute bookings. We ask that you submit your information sheet six weeks prior to your ceremony date to secure all of your requests.

Remember, you can always contact a coordinator if you need any assistance, and if you’d like to make last minute add-ons, we’ll do our best to help, but we can’t guarantee it.


Pre-bridal photography with hair and makeup

Pre-bridal photos and in-room hair and makeup...nice additions to your day.


Say Thanks

One of the fastest ways to reverse any negative feelings is to take the time to express sincere appreciation. Thanking your fiance, friends, or family can help change your focus from what causes you stress to what makes you grateful. It’s a fast way to shift your mind to positive thinking.

Your Weddings of Hawaii team does their best to make the planning for your special day an easy process, but nerves for such an important event are often unavoidable. Showing gratitude to others is a proven way to help.


Remember that You’re Coming to Hawaii

Hawaii and stress just don’t go together. Take a tip from the locals and relax. Slow down. Know that when you get off the plane, you’ll be in paradise, ready to enjoy more than just your ceremony day.

Go relax on the beach. Get a massage. Do some shopping. Eat. Enjoy yourself. Take in all Hawaii has to offer!

By the time you land, we’ll have everything in order. Don't stress, just get dressed, and we'll do the rest!



You'll be here soon!



We do everything we can to make sure your ceremony day is perfect, but we understand that stress can sneak in from time to time. I hope some of these tips help, and please know that your Weddings of Hawaii team is always here to help.

Call us, schedule a time for us to call you, or message us us if you need to talk. We're here for you :)


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Topics: Getting Married in Hawaii, Wedding Day Tips


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